Recently, a girl named Hani Tarmizi posted on Facebook how ‘jungle’ Sarawakian girls are. She claimed that girls from Sarawak are from the village and in a way ‘cheap’ (‘sluts’ sound so harsh). You could enlarge the photo above, and you’ll see what she has said.
Her comments sparked outrage among the Borneo people from Sabah and Sarawak, with a hate group boasting over 5000 fans being created. When one group is closed, a new one is created by those whom hate Hani. Yea, I know, it’s that intense. I can’t blame these people because Hani’s words do hurt, and she is directly degrading girls from Sarawak (and probably Sabah).
But Hani isn’t the first to describe such thing. I’m saddened and even very disappointed with some so called ‘friends’ which refer to girls from Borneo as ‘easy’. It’s a norm among SOME men, most notably those from the peninsular, whom talk about girls from the Borneo states whom they wish to ‘tackle’ just for the sake of sex and their personal lust. In fact, some do say that they would want to take these girls as their 2nd or 3rd wives to save them. Maybe they take it that in East Malaysia, we tend to be very close regardless of gender, but that isn’t a good argument to say that these girls are easy. Remember, East Malaysia and West Malaysia do not share similar values, because in East Malaysia things are definitely different, and we look at things differently. I wouldn’t want to get into the religious side of it, because that would be a whole different story of how annoyed I am with people whom do not practice what they preach.
Anyway, while most of us from these two states stand firm and defend our ‘sisters’, we can’t change their mindsets overnight, and do end u feeling bitterly annoyed and disgruntled that our ‘friends’ feel such a way. I guess, that is why, most of us do not really condone our ‘sisters’ from becoming too close to those men from the peninsular.
Despite that, I’d like to note further that; NOT ALL MEN FROM SEMENANJUNG MAKE SUCH STATEMENTS & THINK IN SUCH A WAY. We shouldn’t generalize, but we also can’t deny that the perception is there.
What may be the root of such a perception? I wonder myself. Is it how they dress? Is it how they bring themselves? Is it how they mix around, or does it have something to do with history? Either way, such a perception is NOT GOOD IN ANY WAY.
This negative perception has to stop. Girls, regardless of place/background/religion/race shouldn’t be looked down upon. They must be respected. I admit, some girls portray a bad image of their race/people, but that doesn’t mean all are similar to them. Some are better off, and will feel very insulted with such a remark.
In Hani’s case, I’d really not want to take sides, and that’s why I do not join up in any hate groups made up. Reason being is that I do not know the start of it all. Hani may have said that girls from Sarawak are sluts, and that is a very hurtful and narrow minded allegation. But I’d like to give her the benefit of the doubt that she said it out of anger because maybe some Sarawakian girl is trying to steal her beloved husband. Who wouldn’t? I’d be pissed if my partner was being fished by someone.
Then again, she shouldn’t make such an allegation, and should just pint point the name of the person. But you know-lah… Malaysian culture, always trying to do some sort of ‘side-kick‘, rather than getting straight to the point.
I’m ending this post with this quote from Grey’s Anatomy: “I feel like some people whom would affect some people whom are happy people… and that makes me miserable“. We all should be happy, but not to the expense of other people’s happiness.
i like the way you write things 🙂
true.. not all girls that way. we s’wakians don’t go saying west m’sia girls are slutty as well.
[Cyril]
Thank you for the compliment Sharon =D Hehehe…
She’s generalizing stuff to mask her fear that her “laki” is actually a flirt. So she tries to point the blame to the other party. This is a prime example of a woman with terribly low self esteem.
[Cyril]
Hehehe… a good point bro.
Typical orang KL… sad!!!
I guess she is not that attractive hence the husband is flirting around…LOL!
[Cyril]
Hahaha..if her husband is flirting around, that would be a whole different story, wouldn’t it?
SARAWAKIAN ARE LOVEABLE PEOPLE!
EMELDA, YUP.. TYPICAL ORANG MALAYS KL.
[Cyril]
Hehehehhehe… Indeed lovable =D
Wahraooo.. If Borneo girls are cheap.. then they’re expensive lar? O_o
[Cyril]
The term ‘Borneo girls are cheap’ is already wrong.
That’s just the mind set of “some” people from peninsular. It’s like Sarawakian and Sabahan are in a “lower” level than them..We gonna show them that WE are equal XD (maybe better)
[Cyril]
We are equal.. Just that SOME prefer us to be lower than them.
5000 fans for a hate fan group? whoaaaa…where was I when all this happened? 😀
[Cyril]
In the spark of the ‘Allah’ issue, kes ngorat suami org jadi hangat pla.. hehehe
Just ignore them for there are many “katak di bawah tempurung ppl” in the west. I remember our politicians from west M used to say that we should not follow the derogating western culture, ibarat meludah ke langit, terkena batang hidung sendiri.
[Cyril]
Ignoring them to the max.. but if they ‘cucuk’ here.. can’t ignore no more =(
wow this is interesting to know, another thing defacing sarawak people, last time PAS leader said people in Batang Ai still wear “cawat” (I’m living with people in Batang Ai and they’re all civilized, the proof, they know which politicians to choose, they choose civilized Dayak (Iban)) now this. The term Borneo girls are cheap that’s include my sisters and my mum, she hate other people but she generalized it which make what she said is wrong, if she really brave then mention the name of girl who kacau his laki, don’t generalized. What a such uncivilized thinking she had.
Man, i like the way u write this, i do agree we should not fight back, we’re just expressing our thought.
[Cyril]
Thanks for the compliment Rodz, and thanks for dropping by my site. Yes, we are expressing our views, and we should not be uncivillized like some people. Borneo girls ROCK!!
my fren ask me what do i mean by civilized Dayak (Iban) as what i put in my comment, well i reflected the YB won in Batang Ai election last year, coz he contested against uncivilized Dayak also iban, i dun want other Dayak to think that only Iban is the civilized Dayak, I didn’t mean that, the uncivilized is the other losing contestant who also an Iban. All Dayak are all civilized, penisular people didn’t know what happening here, luckily we didn’t live on the tree (like what they think as uncivilized) anymore, if not, we will lift to go up and down the tree.
[Cyril]
Yea.. we will have a lift going to the tree. You know the tree house in Permai even has aircond?? hehehe…. These people dont think before they talk, thats why the have such misconception.
To state that the Dayaks are uncivilized is not true and a wrong statement.After working for 5 yrs in Sarawak,I found that most of my friends were helpful and friendly.I have been to Batang Ai area back in 1985,when the hydroelectric dam was just comissioned and I have never seen anyone wearing loinclothes(cawat) there.Forgive our peninsula brethrens for having a misconception as most of them have never been to Sarawak.On the whole, Sarawak is a peaceful place and needs more funds for its development e.g roads,schools and other infrastructure.As a net oil producer,it should be given its dues.The rights of the people of Sarawak ,should be protected,as been laid down in cardinal principles of the rule by the last Rajah.These principles wre laid down,before Sarawak was made a Crown Colony.
[Cyril]
I agree with you. The rights of Sarawakians should be protected, and thank you for thinking that way for Sarawak.
Cyril,I feel the same when individual makes generalization.More so if the assumption or the generalisation is “negative”.Hani’s blatant assumption is morally unaccepted.Whether we like or not that’s it.Life is like that.Don’t be too upset that we forget our rasionale.Sarawakians are tolerant.This Hani’s episode should open our eyes.Do we care what’s going on in our entertainment outlets?See for ourselves.Saya juga seorang ayah kpd dua anak perempuan.I do not want them to be treated or called “cheap Borneo girls”.
Saloi:
Yess.. i hear u bro. we should also regulate what our own girls are doing. no point defending them if the facts prove otherwise. we should take care of our girls
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