Last week, I received a call from someone of high authority which I shall not disclose. The nature of the call was to tell me that I should be ‘educating my readers, and the people’.
While I constantly asked him if he was mad at me (I figured this through his constant intonation and way of speech), he continued to say he was not and that he was merely making his point.
Since I do not know him that well, I would give him the benefit of the doubt by saying that it was probably how he communicates in his daily life; with high intonation and with high constant sentences which does not allow you to even talk more than 10 words.
Yes, it was a one sided conversation, and the call ended with the words “I will see you tomorrow at 5:30PM”, and an immediate ‘hang up’.
I would not say that I was pleased, but I think when someone is mad or angry, or annoyed, the best is to remain silent until the ‘nasty emotions’ calm down, and rational takes control.
Later that night, I drafted a lengthy email, and sent it to the person, explaining whatever I couldn’t explain in the conversation.
Until today, I have not obtained a reply, but I have a feeling that a grudge has been planted, and this ‘higher authority’ is not happy with me. – Lucky I am not employed or paid by this higher authority in any way.
Before you go on giving me your ‘free advice’, which I would of course read, let me first be clear that the whole scenario came because I gave a comment or rather wrote a whole blog post on how things should be done by the organization.
In fact, I criticized the organization this person is working for, by saying that they should have planned better, and I also gave some suggestions (which was free), to which I believe were ‘constructive suggestions’ on how to overcome some issues, while at the same asking them to be sensitive to the people such as myself whom are directly affected by every decision this organization does make.
Unfortunately, this person said that I was just being smart, and should just opt to take his job instead. In fact, he said I should become his boss, and that I should understand that his organization has done a lot of planning to get everything done. To top it off, he lamented that my ‘openly published suggestions made him and his people look stupid, and that I should get involved in the planning than just criticizing them”.
To this, he invited me to attend one of his meetings and said I should pour all my suggestions then, and show how smart I was to everyone.
In a brief moment, I managed to sneak in the words “I am not free to go for these meetings, but why not let me know in advance, and I can understand”, but that too was shot down with words such as “I don’t have time to tell you every time”.
Honestly, I can’t speak for the person, but from where I am standing, it was a simple case of ‘he thinks he owns my ass, and he doesn’t care what I have to say, because he thinks I am 101% wrong!’.
But regardless, I must say that the experience itself gave me a deep insight on why some of these organisations are really hard to change, and why sometimes, ordinary people like me can’t help but wonder “Why are these things not done correctly?”
The answer I have derived from this experience is that “These people can’t be criticized”, and when they do get criticized, they kill the critic and hail they are more superior.
Sounds familiar? You tell me…
p/s: don’t mind the photos. It is what we call ‘gambar hiasan’ in Malay.
That’s why it’s hard to change as there’s too many people like this.
That is correct. Spot on Irene
From your blog entry, I can see that:
1) Whoever made the call to you clearly felt threatened by your web/blog presence, and acknowledged that you do pose certain amount of damage or cause repercussions through your actions. Your significance has been proven true. More power to you.
2) The tone of “why don’t you join our meeting” or “you should be my boss” are just cowardly words. That is unprofessional, and shows lack of integrity by compensating with sarcasm and negative remarks. Again, that was made in response to your actions, which did cause some ripple.
3) Typical authority trying to silence online presence, and control blog/media contents. THE HELL WITH THEM. We speak what we want to speak, and our voice SHALL NOT BE CONTROLLED. Such ignorance, such arrogance, I tolerate them NOT.
4) Whatever you have done, whatever you are doing, you must have done something right, because you managed to piss some people.
I know how uncomfortable this must have been for you but, as a blogger friend, I say more power to you. Stand strong my friend.
Thank you for the encouragement my friend. It’s really sad that such incident happened because I though what I was doing would be helping. Obviously they think so, and obviously they want me to stay away.
Nonetheless, i shall ride on and go on. One person can’t stop me, especially when I know I am right.
Cyril, great post ! This “high authority ” is just another ignoramus.
Check out this book : “Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go to Work” by industrial psychologist Paul Babiak . A lot of our local leaders are clueless psychopaths who do not know the world beyond their petty kampong turf has changed.
Thank you for the book tip Edward. Will definitely try to be on a look out for it.
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