I’m hearing lot’s of stuff nowadays. Maybe it’s me being a good listener, or maybe it’s just people around me being more ‘open’ towards what their thoughts are lately. If you screw those possibilities, then maybe I’m a cranky 29-year old, unhappy about how life is going about.
So I heard someone say “Marriage will keep someone loyal to you”, or was it something like “You say you don’t want to get married yet because your special one hasn’t cheated on you”, or in maths “marriage = loyalty”.
Not sure if I heard it, or read about it somewhere, but then again, the statement just made me boil. Emotional me is back. Heh! Some people may be happy. My blog’s getting depressing. ha! ha!.
So what gives?
Married or not, it has nothing to do with anyone cheating. Spouses cheat, have affair and so on, so why does someone believe that getting married is the only way to ‘seal the deal’?
Okay, I’m not married, and so some say I have no voice on this. But there’s so many broken marriages out there, and so many uncounted ones which are now in deep shit. I know, I see, I ponder.
There are times I see some people tying the knot early. Good for them! But it saddens me when they start having problems after a couple of years along the way, and end up breaking up- and what’s worst with children at tender ages! That’s not how a marriage is suppose to be.
If you ask me, marriage should only happen when you are really ready, both financially, emotionally and everything. You shouldn’t propose unless you’ve figured out about your future kids, your holiday issues, your finances, your job etc. It’s simple, if you can’t provide, you can’t tie the knot, and that goes both ways.
When you believe can make your spouse happy, and you are happy, then you can say ‘I do’. If both are not achievable, the path will be bumpy, and you’d only make those around you suffer.
So marriage = loyalty? Seriously, get a REAL life dude. Life just ain’t that simple.